I have always been struck by the power of emotions and the way they influence our interactions with others, particularly those we care most about. For better or worse, our attachment bonds to family members, particularly a spouse or romantic partner, have a big impact on our emotions and the way we respond to one another. While we hope for relationships where we feel confident in giving and receiving support, couples also experience moments that feel more like rejection or exclusion that can threaten each partner’s sense of emotional well-being. What once felt safe and secure can quickly feel emotionally unsafe and uncertain. Over time, couples can find themselves caught in a repeating cycle of blaming, defending, and withdrawing they cannot find their way out of.
As a Marriage and Family Therapist who uses Emotionally Focused Therapy, one of my primary roles is creating a safe environment where couples can recognize and accept the underlying attachment needs that drive their patterned responses. I then strive to help each partner express those needs in a way that avoids the pitfalls they have been experiencing. One of the greatest privileges I have as a therapist is witnessing the impact this has on a couple’s sense of closeness and safe attachment.
Who I Serve:
Couples of all ages who are struggling with some form of relational distress. This may include anything from a perception of poor communication skills to the trauma of an affair.
- Relational distress
- Repetitive arguments and communication patterns
- Family and parenting issues
- Loss of trust
- Managing other relationships
- Recovery from an affair
- Emotionally Focused Therapy
- Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Seattle Pacific University, Seattle, WA
- American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
- Illinois Affiliation of Marriage and Family Therapists
- Chicago Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy